“There are women who struggle to GAIN weight who are beautiful. There are women who struggle to LOSE weight who are beautiful. You know who is the most beautiful? Those who learn to love themselves the way they are. You don’t need to change for ANYONE.”
― Teresa Mummert
You will feel more than good
Nowadays, many of us try to stay for a long time in a toxic love struggling to save a relationship. In most of the cases, the reason is that we start to feel lack of self-love. When this occurs, we release our whole self-esteem and importance to another person, and before we understand, our emotions and happiness becomes reliant on the attitude of this person.
When such relationship we don’t know how to live, let alone how to be happy without them. The truth is you’re going to be more than okay – there is so much light and happiness ahead if you chose to let go, and fall back in love with yourself.
Focus on building the new and don’t fight the old
Don’t tempt to find the reason of someone’s actions or decision . You can devote your time and energy in analyzing but never distinguish the truth. Don’t put the spotlight in why someone did something . What is significant is to focus on your present. The up-coming.
Attempting to struggle with the past is like a competition that never ends with success. It’s better to spend all your energy in setting up your new life and building the future you want instead of regretting about what you could have.
Say No to feeding your old misery
The emotional suffering I felt when my ex broke up with me, will always stay as piece of me because it figure me out and influenced the growth of my personality, more than a happy living with him could give to me.
Sometimes love isn’t the one that will bring together two searching souls into one, but rather will contribute to rebirth or new lay of living, fulfilled with more love than you can ever imagine. that You should realize that some relationships are destined to transform your life rather than meet someone to spare your life with.
Release the pain
You won’t be able to improve your life and achieve advance with one foot on the brakes. Sometimes we can’t release the pain due to the fact the it is the only connection with our ex – set yourself free from the pain, will sett you free from your ex. Sometimes we are not prepared to face that.
I didn’t want to make even an effort to let go the pain and the suffer for months. But the energy I spent on holding on the memories and the past, was repressing me from having a worth-living life. If you open your broken heart, you can embrace the light.
I know that being heartbroken feels like having a bullet in the heart, but you have to accept the fact that someone can fall passionately in love with you and still not be prepared to devote his heart. Try to forgive. Sometimes because of their past, evils inside or other reasons, people aren’t prepared for true love and contentment and will reject your feelings.
If you realize that they haven’t become conscious of devotion for true love and you won’t be able to persuade or encourage someone to make this step.
Love them from distance
When you admit deeply someone in your heart, you live with the thought that he will be there until the end. But if you admit to set your mood and feelings reliant on this person, this love becomes poisonous and you loose the instinct of self-love and esteem. Don’t be disappointed if you still have feeling for him after that, but love this person from distance.
Realize your value
The initial footstep to start loving yourself again is determine who you are and stop making compromises on that. Never put yourself apart trying to hold someone or something next to you.
Don’t feel sorry about anything
Mistakes or wrong decisions are unavoidable in the real and worth living life. Since you can find the positive in them and take your lessons, mistakes are meaningful. They help you to determine and reveal what do you need in life and who you want to become.
Perhaps you argued with your ex too often, perhaps you fought with them at the wrong moments. But your fury was a result of your strong emotions and affection for them. You devoted your heart, you show affection, so don’t feel sorry about it.
All the suffer and disappointment built your personality
You passed trough all real emotions and states of the mind – crying, laughing, feeling alive, and this transformed your entire life. All the suffering changed your perceptions and led to a new way of living.
From this moment you will receive the opportunity to be luckier than you have ever been, because you become aware of everything that is holding you in the past and build a life that you desire.
Learn to adore all your edges and imperfections
You adored you ex’s edges, all their coarseness and imperfections. Why wouldn’t you be able to make this for your own? You adored to hold their hand and make them feel secure and comfortable,because you realized they weren’t damaged, they just needed your support and guidance to overcome their fears. You can make this for your own as well. Adore your small imperfections and learn to grow with them.
Require more from yourself
You criticized your your ex frequently. You expected more from them, because you had perceptions and big goals for the future. You are seeking the utmost for them.
You didn’t let them escape from your expectations and commitment to reveal and develop their talents and show their potential.
Therefore, you should find out that it exists more extraordinary love in this world that you would never manage to feel if you didn’t finish your last relations
But to find your one of kind, extraordinary love, you should first fall back in love with yourself!
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